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Promises each partner in a couple makes to the other during a wedding ceremony

Marriage vows are promises each partner in a couple makes to the other during a wedding based upon Western Christian norms. They are not universal to marriage and not necessary in most legal jurisdictions. They are non even universal within Christian matrimony, as Eastern Christians exercise not have union vows in their traditional wedding ceremonies.^[1]

Groundwork [edit]

In the time of the Roman Empire (17 BC – 476 AD) the lower classes had "free" marriages. The helpmate's begetter would deliver her to the groom, and the ii agreed that they were wed, and would go on the vow of wedlock by mutual consent. Wealthy Romans, though, would sign documents listing property rights to publicly declare that their union was legalized and non a common police marriage. This was the starting time of the official recording of marriage.^{[ citation needed ]}

The oldest traditional nuptials vows can be traced back to the manuals of the medieval church. In England, in that location were manuals of the dioceses of Salisbury (Sarum) and York. The compilers of the beginning Book of Common Prayer, published in 1549, based its union service mainly on the Sarum manual.^{[ii] [3]} Upon agreement to marry, the Church of England normally offered couples a choice. The couple could promise each other to "love and cherish" or, alternatively, the groom promises to "love, cherish, and worship", and the bride to "honey, cherish, and obey".^[iv]

Christianity [edit]

Roman Catholic [edit]

Couples hymeneals in the Latin Rite of the Roman Catholic Church substantially make the same pledge to ane some other. According to the Rite of Marriage (#25) the customary text in English is:^[5]

I, ____, take you lot, ____, to exist my (husband/wife). I promise to exist truthful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you lot and honor you all the days of my life.

In the Us, Catholic wedding vows may likewise accept the following course:^[5]

I, ____, accept you, ____, to exist my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to accept and to concur, from this day forward, for improve, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until expiry do us part.

The priest will then say aloud "You have declared your consent earlier the Church. May the Lord in his goodness strengthen your consent and fill you both with his blessings. What God has joined, men must not divide. Amen."^[6]

Historically, in the Sarum Rite of the Catholic Church, vow of the wife reads every bit follows:^[7]

Northward. Vis habere hunc uirum in sponsum et illi obedire et servire et eum diligere et honorare ac custodire sanum et infirmum sicut sponsa debet sponsum, etc.^[7]

In English, the bride says:^[7]

Ich .Due north. take the .N. to my weddyd housbonde to hau and to holden fro this day frontward, for bettere, for wers, for richere for porere, in seknesse and in helthe to exist boneyre and buxsum in bedde and at borde, tyl deth us departe, zif holi cherche hitting wyle ordeyne and there to y plight the my treuthe.^[7]

Lutheran [edit]

The wedding vows used in the Lutheran Churches are as follows:^[8]

I, [name],

take you, [name of bride/groom],
to be my wedded [married woman/husband],
to accept and to hold from this day forward,
for ameliorate, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in wellness,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do office,
according to God's holy will;

and I pledge to you my faithfulness.^[8]

Anglican [edit]

The law in England authorizes marriages to exist legal if properly carried out and registered in the Church of England and another religious bodies (e.g. Jewish, Quakers): other men and women who wish to marry can be married past a local official authorized to do so (civil ceremony). Circumstances may effect in the same partners having both ceremonies at different times, though this is rare. The vows, presence of witnesses, and civil registration are absolute requirements under the law.

Civil ceremonies ofttimes allow couples to choose their ain wedlock vows, although many civil marriage vows are adapted from the traditional vows, taken from the Book of Mutual Prayer, "To have and to hold from this mean solar day forward, for meliorate for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in wellness, to honey and to cherish, till death united states of america practice office."^[9]

They were first published in English language in the prayer book of 1549, based on before Latin texts (the Sarum and York Rituals of the medieval flow). An older version of the final phrase is " until death united states of america depart" where "depart" means "split up". "Until death u.s.a. depart" had to be changed due to changes in the usage of "depart" in the Prayer Book of 1662. In the 1928 prayer book (not authorized) and in editions of the 1662 prayer book printed thereafter "obey" was retained (in the 1928 volume an alternative version omitted this). The 1928 revised form of Matrimony was quite widely adopted, though the form of 1662 was also widely used, though less so after the introduction of the Alternative Service Volume.

The original wedding ceremony vows, as printed in The Book of Common Prayer, are:

Groom: I,____, accept thee,_____, to be my wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death practise us role, according to God'south holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.

Bride: I,_____, take thee,_____, to exist my wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this solar day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to beloved, cherish, and to obey, till death us practise part, according to God'south holy ordinance; and thereto I requite thee my troth.

And then, as the groom places the band on the helpmate's finger, he says the following:

With this Ring I thee wed, with my torso I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.

In the Alternative Service Book (1980) two versions of the vows are included: the bride and groom must select one of the versions merely. Version A:

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my wife (or husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till expiry us practice role, co-ordinate to God's holy law, and this is my solemn vow.

Version B is identical except for the clause "to love and to cherish" where the groom says "to honey, cherish, and worship" and the helpmate says "to love, cherish, and obey".^[10]

Since 2000 the service in Common Worship the normal vows are as follows:

I, Northward, take y'all, N, to be my wife (or married man), to have and to hold from this mean solar day forrad, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do office, according to God's holy police force, in the presence of God I brand this vow.

However, the helpmate and groom may choose to supercede the clause "to love and to cherish" with "to love, cherish, and obey" when the bride makes her vows.^[xi]

On September 12, 1922, the Episcopal Church voted to remove the word "obey" from the bride's section of wedding vows. Other churches of the Anglican Communion each have their ain authorized prayer books which in general follow the vows described to a higher place though the details and languages used do vary.

Quaker [edit]

In the United Kingdom, since the starting time law regulating marriage (the Matrimony Act 1753), the state recognises marriages conducted by the "Gild of Friends" (Quakers), Jews, and the Church of England.

The declarations made in Quaker marriage were outset set down in a London Yearly Meeting minute in 1675^[12] as such:

Man: Friends, in the fearfulness of the Lord, and before this assembly, I accept my friend AB to exist my wife, promising, through divine help, to be unto her a loving and true-blue husband, until it shall please the Lord past death to separate u.s.a..^[12]

Adult female: Friends, in the fearfulness of the Lord, and before this assembly, I take my friend CD to exist my hubby, promising, through divine assist, to be unto him a loving and faithful wife, until it shall please the Lord by death to separate usa.^[12]

The procedure is restated in a minute of London Yearly Meeting of 1754,^[12] and the declarations remained the aforementioned until the twentieth century. In July 1922, the Committee on the Union Proclamation was ready, and this reported to London Yearly Coming together in 1923, and after reference to a further committee the final phrase was changed to as long as nosotros both on earth shall live;^[xiii] although the pick of until information technology shall please the Lord by decease to separate u.s. remained as an culling.

The current declarations allowed in Great britain Yearly Meeting is:

Friends, I take this my friend [name] to be my spouse, promising, through divine aid, to be unto him/her a loving and faithful spouse, so long every bit nosotros both on earth shall alive.^[14]

The following alternatives are currently allowed:

• The announcement may exist prefaced past In the presence of God ^[14]
• The proclamation may be prefaced past In the fear of the Lord and in the presence of this associates ^[xiv]
• The discussion spouse may be replaced by wife or husband as appropriate or by partner in marriage ^[14]
• The phrase through divine help may be replaced by the words with God'south help ^[14]
• The phrase so long every bit we both on earth shall alive may exist replaced by the words until it shall please the Lord by expiry to dissever united states ^[14]
• The annunciation may exist made in Welsh in "places where the Welsh tongue is used"^[14]

Ceremonious marriage [edit]

England and Wales [edit]

Whilst couples may add together to these, nether the Marriage Act 1949, all civil marriage in England and Wales, and union by an authorised person (this includes religious marriage non carried out past the Anglican church building, Jewish or Society of Friends (Quakers)), must include the following declaration and contracting words:

I do solemnly declare that I know not of whatsoever lawful impediment why I ____ may not be joined in matrimony to ____.^[15]

I call upon these persons here present to witness that I ____ do take thee ____ to exist my lawfully wedded wife/husband.^[15]

The Wedlock Anniversary (Prescribed Words) Deed 1996 allowed an alternative declaration of either:

I declare that I know of no legal reason why I ____ may not be joined in marriage to ____.

Registrar/Minister: Are you ____ complimentary lawfully to marry ____
Man/Woman: I am.

and an alternative of the contracting words of:

I ____ take you/thee ____ to be my wedded married woman/hubby.

History [edit]

The wedding vows equally practised in most English-speaking countries derive ultimately from the Sarum rite of mediaeval England. The first part of the vows of the Sarum rite is given in Latin, but is instructed to be said by the priest "in linguam materna", i.e. in the "mother natural language" of those nowadays.^[16] The vows of the first English prayer volume of 1549 by and large correspond to those of the Sarum rite.

	To the homo	To the woman	Man	Adult female
Sarum[16]	Vis habere hanc mulierem in sponsam et eam diligere et honorare, tenere et custodire, sanam et infirmam, et sicut sponsus debet sponsam: et omnes alias propter eam dimittere et illi soli adhaerere, quamdiu vita utriusque duraverit?[17]	Vis habere hunc virum in sponsum, et illi obedire et servire, et eum diligere et honorare, air conditioning custodire sanum et infirmum, et sicut sponsa debet sponsum: et omnes alios propter eum dimittere, et illi soli adhaerere, quamdiu vita utriusque vestrum duraverit?[xviii]	I N. take the N. to my weddyd wyf, to accept and to hold fro thys day forwarde, for better for wors, for richer for porer, in sikenesse and in helthe, tyl deth u.s. departe, yf holy Chyrche wyl it ordeyne; and thereto I plyght the my trouthe.	I N. accept the N. to my weddyd husbonde, to take and to concord fro thys mean solar day forwarde, for improve for wurs, for richere, for porer, in sikenesse and in helthe, to be bonoure[xix] and buxum in bed and at bord, tyll deth us departe, yf holy Chyrche wyl it ordeyne; and therto I plyght the my trouth.
York missal[16]	Wilt yard accept this woman to thy married woman, and love her and go on her in siknes and in helthe, and in all other degrees be to her as a husbande sholde be to his married woman, and all other forsake for her, and holde the but to her to thy live's ende?	Wilt thou have this man to thy husbande, and to be buxum to him, serve him and kepe him in syknes and in helthe, etc.	I N. accept the N. to my wedded wife, to take and to hold at bedde and at borde, for fairer for fouler, for ameliorate for warse, in sekenes and in hele, tyl dethe u.s. depart. And thereto I plyght the my trouthe.
1549 Prayer Volume[twenty]	Wilte chiliad have this woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after Goddes ordeinaunce in the holy estate of matrimonie? Wilt k beloved her, coumforte her, honor, and kepe her in sickenesse and in health? And forsaking all other kepe thee only to her, so long as you both shall live?	Wilt chiliad accept this man to thy wedded houseband, to live together after Goddes ordeinaunce, in the holy estate of matrimonie? Wilt m obey him, and serve him, love, laurels, and kepe him in sickenes and in health? And forsaking al other kepe thee onely to him, and then long as you bothe shall alive?	I N. accept thee Northward. to my wedded married woman, to take and to holde from this solar day forwarde, for better, for wurse, for richer, for poorer, in sickenes, and in health, to beloved and to cherishe, til expiry us departe: according to Goddes holy ordeinaunce: And therto I plight thee my trouth.	I N. accept thee N. to my wedded husbande, to take and to holde from this day forwarde, for amend, for woorse, for richer, for poorer, in sickenes. and in health, to beloved, cherishe, and to obey, till death us departe: accordyng to Goddes holy ordeinaunce: And thereto I geve thee my trouth.
1552 Prayer Book[21]	Wilt thou take this woman to thy wedded wife, to live together later on god's ordinaunce in the holy estate of matrimonie? Wilte thou love her, coumfort her, award, and kepe her in sickenes and in health? And forsaking al other kepe thee onely to her, then long as you both shall lyve?	Wilte thou have this homo to thy wedded housband, To lyve together afterwards god'southward ordynaunce, in the holy estate of matrimony? Wylte g obey him, and serve him, love, honor, and kepe him, in sickenes and in health? and forsakyng al other kepe thee onely unto him, so long as you both shall lyve?	I North. take thee N. to my wedded wife, to accept and to hold from this day foreword, for meliorate, for worse, for rycher, for poorer, in sickenes, and in health, to honey, and to cherish, till expiry united states of america depart, according to goddes holy ordynaunce: And thereto I plight thee my troth.	I N. have thee North. to my wedded husbande, to have and to holde from this 24-hour interval forewarde, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickenes, and in wellness, to love, cherish, and to obeye, tyl expiry u.s.a. depart, according to goddes holy ordynaunce: And thereto I geve thee my troth.
1662 Prayer Book[22]	Wilt thou accept this woman to thy wedded married woman, to live together subsequently God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thousand love her, condolement her, honor, and keep her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee simply unto her, then long as ye both shall live?	Wilt thou accept this human to thy wedded husband, to alive together later on God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, honey, honour, and proceed him, in sickness and in wellness; and, forsaking all other, proceed thee merely unto him, and so long as ye both shall alive?	I M. take thee Northward. to my wedded married woman, to have and to concord, from this twenty-four hour period forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in wellness, to beloved and to cherish, till death united states do office, according to God'due south holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.	I Due north. take thee One thousand. to my wedded husband, to have and to concur from this twenty-four hours frontward, for ameliorate for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in wellness, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death usa do part, according to God'due south holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.

Come across also [edit]

• Bride toll
• Dowry
• Promise
• Vow

References [edit]

1. ^ "Marriage – Welcome". Archived from the original on 2016-01-26.
2. ^ Daniel, Evan (1901) The Prayer-Book: its history, language and contents. London: Wells Gardner, Darton & Co., p. 491
3. ^ The betrothal in the Sarum transmission: "I North. accept the N. to my weddyd wyf to take and to holde fro thys mean solar day forwarde, for beter for wers, for richere for porere; in sykenesse and in hele [health]; tyl dethe the states departe; if holy chyrche information technology wol ordeyne; and thereto I plycht the my trouthe". (In the woman's pledge, "hele" is followed by "to be bonere and buxum"; "bonere" means "gracious" or "gentle", "buxum" ways "obedient")
   Daniel, Evan (1901) The Prayer-Volume: its history, language and contents. London: Wells Gardner, Darton & Co., pp. 493-94.
4. ^ "All Heart Weddings - The History of Wedding Vows". All Eye Weddings. Archived from the original on 30 May 2013. Retrieved 26 April 2013.
5. ^ ^{a b} "Cosmic wedding vows". Our Lord's day Company. Retrieved 10 Feb 2012.
6. ^ "Catechismo della Chiesa Cattolica; pt. 2, sez. ii, cap. 3, art. vii: Il sacramento del matrimonio" (in Italian). Retrieved 2011-04-09 .
7. ^ ^{a b c d} Legg, J. Wickham (1915). "On the Retentivity of the Word Obey in the Union Service of the Volume of Common Prayer: A Liturgical Consultation, addressed to the Bishop of Oxford, and written before the beginning of August, 1914" (PDF). Wells Gardner, Darton and Visitor. p. 13. Retrieved 29 Apr 2021.
8. ^ ^{a b} "Our Wedding Service" (PDF). St. Paul Lutheran Church building. p. ix. Retrieved 30 April 2021.
9. ^ England, Church of (1815). "The Book of Common Prayer". google.com . Retrieved 16 November 2015.
10. ^ The Alternative Service Book 1980, together with the Liturgical Psalter. Colchester: William Clowes, 1980; pp. 290-91
11. ^ Mutual Worship Pastoral Services' Church House Publishing; P 108 & P 150
12. ^ ^{a b c d} Hull, William I. (1970). William Penn and the Dutch Quaker migration to Pennsylvania (Repr. d. Ausg. Swarthmore, 1935. ed.). Baltimore: Genealogical Pub. Co. p. 206. ISBN0806304324.
13. ^ Carnall, Geoffrey (2010). Gandhi'southward interpreter : a life of Horace Alexander. Edinburgh: Edinburgh University Printing. p. 54. ISBN9780748640454.
14. ^ ^{a b c d e f 1000} United kingdom of great britain and northern ireland Yearly Meeting of the Religious Lodge of Friends (Quakers) (2014). "16". Quaker Faith and Practice: The volume of Christian subject field of the Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) in Britain (5th ed.).
15. ^ ^{a b} "Interpretation Deed 1978", legislation.gov.u.k., The National Archives, 1978 c. 30
16. ^ ^{a b c} Morgan, Hector Davies (1826). The doctrine and police of spousal relationship, adultery, and divorce: exhibiting a theological and practical view, vol ii. Oxford, England: Baxter. pp. 591–593. OCLC 11308498.
17. ^ English language translation: Do you wish to have this woman as a wife, and to esteem her, to honour, hold, and protect her, healthy and sick, simply as a husband ought to exercise for a married woman, and to abdicate all other women, and to cling to her so long as your life and hers will endure?
18. ^ English language translation: Do you wish to have this human as a married man, and to obey him, to serve, esteem, honor, and guard him healthy and sick, only as a wife ought to do for a husband, and to forsake all other men, and to cling to him and then long every bit your life and his will endure?
19. ^ Niebrzydowski, Sue (2006). Bonoure and Buxum: A Study of Wives in Late Medieval English Literature. Bern: Peter Lang. p. 91. ISBN9783039107278.
20. ^ "The 1549 Book of Common Prayer: Wedlock". anglican.org . Retrieved 16 November 2015.
21. ^ "The 1552 Book of Common Prayer: Marriage". anglican.org . Retrieved xvi November 2015.
22. ^ http://justus.anglican.org/resources/bcp/1662/wedlock.pdf^{[ bare URL PDF ]}

Further reading [edit]

• Daniel, Evan (1948) The Prayer-Book; its history, language and contents; 26th ed. Redhill: Wells Gardner; pp. 491–96: The class of solemnization of marriage
• Warner, Diane (2006), Diane Warner's Complete Book of Hymeneals Vows: Hundreds of Ways to Say "I Practice", Career Press, ISBN978-1-56414-816-2 , retrieved 2015-11-xvi
• Macfarlane, Michael (1999), Wedding Vows: finding the perfect words, Sterling Publishing Company, ISBN978-0-8069-0639-3

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_vows

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